Domestic violence is threatening in relationships, especially for women. If you’re in an abusive relationship knowing the warning signs of this type of relationship can save your life. Many women choose to stay because of the financial, physical, and emotional security their partner provides. The reality is that the outcome of staying in a chaotic/abusive relationship usually ends up in death or disease if women and some men do not empower their lives.
Death often is the reality many women and their families have to face, as the case in Stephanie Moseley’s story.
Stephanie Mosley, which we know from Hit the Floor, was fatally shot 10 to 12 times in the bathtub by her husband Earl Hayes in their LA home. The couple’s relationship looks to have been rocky since Stephanie Moseley had an alleged Affair with artist, Trey Songz, two years ago. Since then, Earl Hayes accused Moseley of having multiple affairs. After tragically murdering his wife, Hayes later turned it into a murder-suicide by killing himself.
The news is very tragic because we all assume that wealthy celebrities don’t go through the same gender issues that working to middle class households go through. This can happen to woman anywhere. If you’re in a relationship look out for the following red flags:
- Threatens you with violence.
- Blames you for their violence.
- Is extremely jealous or possessive.
- Chokes, shoves, hits, kicks, or hurts you in any way.
- Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts when you say no.
- Refusing to wear contraceptive devices during sex
- Refusing your access to birth control
- Discourages you or prevents you from seeing your friends or family.
- Restricts or monitors your access to communication devices (cell phone, internet)
- Drinks alcohol, then gets angry and violent.
- Calls you names, demeans, or undermines you.
- Prevents you from going to work, school, or running a business
- Taking your money or refusing to provide money for household expenses
- Preventing access to your bank accounts
- Attempting police your personal appearance (clothes you wear, makeup and hairstyle choices)
For more information, please visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline website at http://www.thehotline.org/
or if you need help, find a safe phone ( one that your partner can’t access) and call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)