Perhaps it’s the pumpkin spice lattes that’s causing cuffing season to start. With the start of cuffing season, questions about dating will start appearing again. Instead of planning your amazing Halloween costume, you’re left wondering whether or not you’re supposed to get drinks and if you get drinks what does that mean.
On top of all that, everybody and their mommas know that dating as a woman of color is hard. There are so many unseen expectations or rules that guide your hand with every Tinder swipe or settle wink at a party. Either you have to be as classy as the First Lady or as seksi as Amber Rose or Nicki Minaj combined. For some reason, people don’t want to give women of color the right to be bad, or different, or anything that we want. We have to exist in some cookie cutter form that makes it easy for others to understand us.
I have no intentions on waiting on someone who doesn’t understand who I am to tell me how I am supposed to be or behave. I can go from Rihanna to Annalise Keating in .25 seconds. Furthermore, cuffing season doesn’t mean that I’m going to start linking up with anything in sight and trying to make myself into someone’s Happy Homemaker. We’re not pieces of double sided tape. We don’t have to stick to anything that we don’t want to.
People need to stop waiting from some unforeseen force to give them the right to behave a certain way. This isn’t Star Wars—the force is not with you. At the end of the day is just you and your choices. No one can dictate what you do because they aren’t you.
In the crazy world of Hollywood, cupid has been shooting arrows everywhere. Some of the recent rumored victims of cupid’s touch have been Rihanna, Serena Williams, and Sanna Lathan. They all have been connected to rappers with interesting romantic pasts.
The Internet is up in arms about their relationships. Rihanna’s Navy collectively had a heart attack when news broke that her and Travis Scott were possibly seeing each other. After Serena lost her match, Twitter created #BlameDrake. Then Sanna Lathan revealed that she’s in a relationship with French Montana, and left everyone dazed and confused.
You can’t fight or dodge cupid’s arrows. People have the right to love whoever they want to. However, as a woman they are so many problems that appear when trying to love. First there’s the issue of women loving men who are possibly not worthy of them. Second, if a woman has a slip up and dates or loves a no good. Then she’s reprimanded or reminded for the rest of her life. Meanwhile, a man has the opportunity to skip away scot-free.
It’s a double standard that women have been taught since childhood. Women can’t sleep around with a bunch of men because that means we are morally corrupt. Men are taught to spread their oats and have a good time. The sky is blue, and water is wet. What on earth are us women going to do?
I say that we love whomever we want to. We don’t owe anything to anyone. However, we do owe it to ourselves to be selfish and do whatever we need to do to protect our hearts and our beautiful minds. Sometimes, protecting ourselves means saying no to a potential partner, and staying in the single lane.
Cupid is sneaky and loving someone isn’t as simple as telling your third grade crush to check yes or no. Everyone handles love and intimacy differently. How do you handle love? Do you try to stop yourself from liking potential no goods? Or do you believe in letting the good times roll and not worrying about what might happen?
It’s hard shopping for clothes when you’re not a carbon copy of a mannequin. On some days going through sizes feels like you’re hunting for your glass slipper. When you’re trying to decide whether to buy a pair of pants that’ll have a shelf life of two months because of your chub rub, it can feel disheartening to be a Black girl who doesn’t have the body of Rihanna or Beyoncé. Continue reading “Love Your Body”
Needing much rest and rejuvenation after working tirelessly on her eighth album, Rihanna returned to her homeland Barbados with best friend Melissa Forde. Continue reading “Rihanna Shows Her Great Shape In Barbados”
For the first time in the French design house’s 70-year history, they have a black woman as the face of the brand.
Lucky for them, that face happens to belong to Rihanna, who was appointed in March this year. The beauty from Barbados looks incredible in every shot from the campaign.
From rocking sunglasses to sparkles to flowing red gowns, Rihanna impresses from every fashionable angle.
Check out the rest of the shots below.
Put another notch on Rihanna’s belt. In addition to acting and being an international superstar, she’s got a new job.
The Barbados-born bad gal will soon be helming the post of Creative Director for sportswear line, Puma. A few months ago, the were rumors that she was close to a deal with the company, but now it’s official.
Her duties in the new role includes creating new styles of shoes and apparel for the brand’s women’s fitness line, as well as revamping classic styles. She will also star in the 2015 advertising campaigns.
“Signing Rihanna is a fantastic step for Puma. Her global profile, her charisma and individuality, her ambition — all these things make her a perfect brand ambassador for our brand. Rihanna is an icon for the young consumer — male and female.” A rep for the brand told Women’s Wear Daily.
Get it, Rih!