It’s Okay to Say No to Marriage!

6357889953664274831439313714_shonda_two

When Shonda Rhimes proclaimed that she has no intentions of getting married, my mother gasped. Her like many other women, believe that the next important step after gaining a successful career is marriage. Meanwhile there are other women who cringe at the idea of marriage. The desires of mother and grandmother are not ours, and not wanting marriage is perfectly fine. For centuries, Black women were denied a home. If she was given one, it did not happen under the best circumstances. She was forced to embody the role of the Black mammy. So, when Black woman finally gained their home, it was sacred.

Fast forward to now. The histories of violence against Black women and their bodies remain with us. We have come far. We are strong. We are #blackgirlmagic. However, we don’t have to force ourselves to do things that we don’t want. It’s the 21st century, Shonda Rhimes rules ABC, and we have a Black president. Although, society wants to tell you that people of color are not wanted, it’s a lie. Like come on, Donald Trump is just a bad weave clumped on top of a rotting tomato.

Centuries of struggle have forced for women of color to forsake what they want. Some women dream about their wedding day while others don’t. You don’t have to know whether or not you want to get married. Yes, the biological clock is ticking, but don’t let that clock lead you to unhappiness. If everyone had a say on what to do with your body, then it wouldn’t be yours anymore.

We Need More Diversity in Films but Until Then…


the-perfect-guy

The Perfect Guy comes out this weekend. When I saw the trailer for the movie, I sent the link to all of my friends. It’s exciting whenever I see people who look like my friends and I on the silver screen. However, I’m tired of Black films and movies only occurring once or twice a blue moon.

Ava DuVernay was right when saying that diversity in films needs to become the norm. Talent doesn’t just occur in one race. There are talented actresses, actors, writers, and directors from every color spectrum. With how diverse society is becoming, there really is no excuse for our movies to be as outdated as your great grandmother’s favorite talkie.

Although I fully support diversity in movies, I am less than hopeful for the movie industry as a whole. Due to the intense politics of making a film in Hollywood, movies can take years to reach a proper audience. Nowadays, I don’t have to suffer through seeing the same stars on the screen or waiting forever to see a movie. I can sit at home, go on Netflix or KweliTV, and find a plethora of diverse films.

I want diversity in films but until then, I want more Shonda Rhimes dominating the television screen. Hollywood doesn’t believe that diverse films will bring in money. Until the silver screen starts featuring more diversity, ticket sales will continue declining.

Amy Poehler’s new show includes ‘joke’ about R Kelly urinating on Blue Ivy

 

image

Oh Amy Poehler.There was once a time where I thought you were an ally in sisterhood. You have an organization aimed at helping and empowering young girls. Your character Leslie Knope in Parks and Recreation was a dedicated feminist who didn’t take no for an answer. Continue reading “Amy Poehler’s new show includes ‘joke’ about R Kelly urinating on Blue Ivy”

Raven Symone Joins The View As a Full-Time Co-Host

raven-symone-joins-the-view

On Wednesday’s episode of ABC’s The View, Whoopi Goldberg made an announcement that 29-year-old  former Cosby kid, Raven Symone would be joining the panel of hosts full-time on the show. Raven has co-hosted The View 37 times and is excited to make the move permanent. Continue reading “Raven Symone Joins The View As a Full-Time Co-Host”

Orange Is The New Black Cast Stuns on July 2015 Essence Cover

essence mag-ointb-2015

As the release date for season 3 of Netflix’s original hit series “Orange Is The New Black” approaches, Essence magazine heats up the newsstands with this orange-hot cover featuring the lovely ladies of the show.   Uzo Aduba, Danielle Brooks, Laverne Cox, Vicky Jeudy, Adrienne C. Moore and Samira Wiley serve up all kinds of chocolate beauty for the July cover, celebrating “sexy at every size.”

The gorgeous girls took time out to talk to the magazine about the task of loving themselves  in a world that loves to break women down.

Laverne Cox on how she learns self acceptance:

“This is intense, and it’s hard. What I’ve been doing is looking in the mirror and listing all the things I have an issue with and then saying, ‘This is beautiful.’ I just go down the list and tell myself, ‘You have to accept that this is you today.’ I make time to do this.”

Danielle Brooks on the beauty of diversity:

“Being [my size] in this industry is so rare but regular people look more like me than runway models. To show beauty in a different way really lights me up inside. That’s so cheesy, but it does.”

Uzo Aduba on her signature grin:

“For the majority of my first 18 years, I hated my gap. My mom would tell me that in Nigeria, it’s a sign of beauty. I was like, ‘We’re in Massachusetts.'” She continues, “Today there’s not a selfie or personal photo I take where I’m not smiling wide. It sometimes feels as if I’m making up for lost smiles.”

The July 2015 issue of Essence will be on newsstands soon. In the meantime, start your OITNB marathon now, as the third season is set to be released on Netflix June 12

Jamie Foxx Nails John Legend and Jennifer Hudson Impressions on “The Tonight Show”

jamie-foxx-jimmy-fallon-1

This week, Oscar-winning actor Jamie Foxx stopped by “The Tonight Show” to clown around with Jimmy Fallon. While promoting his first album in five years, Hollywood: The Story of A Dozen Roses, Jamie got to participate in a game of musical impressions.

In the game, we see both comedians hit a button to generate a random pairing of a singer with a famous jingle, television theme or children’s show tune. It was clear as soon as Jamie hit a perfect Mick Jagger impression that this was going to be hilarious. It only got better as he hit John Legend right on the head with that Toys ‘R’ Us jingle and kept us all rolling with Jennifer Hudson’s rendition of a childhood favorite.

Check out the hilarious clip below!

Which one was your favorite impression? Let us know in the comments below.

The Boys of Empire: Jussie Smollet, Bryshere Gray and Trai Beyers Cover Essence June 2015 Issue

Essence-mag-empire-june-2015

If you’re one of the millions that are currently going through “Empire” withdrawls, Essence magazine has the cure– not one, but four covers– featuring the hot men of Fox’s extremely popular drama.

Essence-mag-empire-june-2015-2

Andre (Trai Beyers), Jamal (Jussie Smollet) and Hakeem (Bryshere “Yazz” Gray) not only did a group cover, but they scored individual covers as well.

As if we needed more reasons to love the Lyon brothers, In either their fictional or real-life capacities, they shared some pretty awesome tidbits about themselves in the interview.

Jussie Smollet, 32, on getting Lee Daniels attention after hearing about the show: “I jumped on Instagram and direct-messaged Lee and said, ‘Sir, I know you get this all the time, but I’m a singer, actor, dancer, songwriter and musician. I am Jamal Lyon in more ways than one.'”

Bryshere “Yazz” Gray, 21, on youth mentoring and talking to his young fans: “I would hear things like, ‘My dad was never in my life…’ and my response was, ‘My dad was never in my life…Don’t feel like you don’t matter.'”

Trai Byers, 33, has a two-fold reason for working out: “I work out for two reasons: one, because I’m an actor and two, because I’m somebody’s [future] husband. I want to be prepared for the woman God has for me.” Swoon!

Check out the individual covers below!

Essence-mag-jussie-smollett-june-2015

Essence-mag-trai-june-2015

Essence-magazine-yazz-june-2015